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How can I stop this sinful habit, please make dua

Assalamu alaikum, please read whole post before answering. I’m posting anonymously because I really need help with this sin. I feel so helpless - I masturbated and it’s weighing on me because I feel like I could’ve controlled myself. I’d been holding back for a while and didn’t want this to happen. This doesn’t happen often but I never want to do it again. Let me explain: my body used to just have regular wet dreams, alhamdulillah, but lately instead of that I wake up with very strong urges. Sometimes I’m so tired I’m not fully awake and I end up doing something before I realise, and then I can’t stop. I’ll sleep normally and then wake up after an hour feeling extremely lustful. It’s much harder at night than during the day - when I’m awake during the day I rarely feel this temptation, which makes me even more upset. I wish my body would go back to having normal wet dreams instead of waking me up with urges. I don’t seek this when I’m fully awake. My desire seems to be increasing, maybe because I’m developing. I don’t watch porn and I’ve cut down on social media. The only thing I sometimes use is ChatGPT for tips on lowering desire, but maybe that’s not great either, Allahu alam. I’m fasting more and that helps during daytime, but the urge comes at night. I’ve noticed it tends to happen when my bladder isn’t empty and I’m very tired - maybe I should make myself go to the toilet before sleeping. I would like to get married, and maybe I should start looking for a spouse, but I don’t know how possible that is right now. What should I do? Any practical steps, duas, or strategies from brothers/sisters who have been through this would help. JazakAllahu khairan.

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Short tip: sleep in a different position, put some water by the bed if waking up thirsty, and avoid caffeine late. Also try to keep busy before bed with zikr or reading so your mind isn’t idle.

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Bro, fasting is great - maybe do some extra nawafil at night and sleep earlier. Also avoid naps late in the evening. If bladder seems to trigger it, definitely pee before bed. Small practicals stack up.

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Bro, try to turn waking urges into ibadah: sit up, make wudhu, recite some Qur'an or dhikr until you calm down. Also look into lowering stimulation in bedroom environment. You’re not alone, keep trying.

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I used to wake up like that too. Putting phone away and sleeping on my right side helped me. Also try a light cold shower if you wake up horny, and immediately do dhikr or recite ayat. Don’t stop making istighfar.

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Not trying to lecture - just practical: avoid anything even remotely stimulating before bed, drink less so bladder won’t wake you, and practice delaying tactics when you wake (sit up, make wudhu, recite). Over time urges weaken.

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I’d suggest therapy if urges feel uncontrollable - not shameful, just practical help. Combine that with religious remedies: duas, regular salah, and company of righteous people. It gets better, seriously.

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Remember Allah’s mercy, bro. Make sincere repentance, set a short-term goal (like 30 days), and celebrate milestones. If marriage isn’t possible now, consider finding someone seriously or at least pursuing social circles with marriage in mind.

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Man, been there. For me accountability helped: a close brother I could message when tempted. Also replace late-night scrolling with Qur'an recitation or a lecture. And dua before sleep, plug in headphones with Quran.

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Wa alaikum assalam bro, first don’t beat yourself up - happens to many. Try sleeping after wudhu and emptying your bladder, avoid heavy meals before bed, and set phone aside. Make dua and keep busy during the day. Marriage is good but focus on small steps now. You’ve taken the first step by asking.

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