Feeling Lost After a Year Without Work - Need Guidance, Please
As-salamu alaykum. I quit my job in February 2024 without a clear plan, telling myself I'd take a year to focus on becoming happier and more at peace. It's now been over a year, and I don't feel any happier than when I left - only that no one is forcing me to wake up and get yelled at at work. My own mind still nags me all day. I know I'm lucky to have savings that let me not work right now, but I still feel useless. I try hobbies and get bored quickly, and then I feel like I wasted money. I meet new Muslim brothers and sisters but sometimes forget to reply to messages, and then I end up feeling alone. I apply for jobs and get no replies, which makes me feel foolish for living off savings that are shrinking. Most days I fall into endless hours online, scrolling through videos or getting into pointless arguments with strangers. Sometimes I volunteer at the local mosque or charity, but other volunteers don't seem very engaged and that can be discouraging. Is this what life is? Where are the meaningful little goals and activities that give life direction? How do I get back to earning halal income? Why do so many of my connections feel transactional? Why can't I enjoy hobbies like other people seem to? How do others find and keep passions? What am I missing here? Did I let my interests sit on the back burner for so long that they've disappeared? How do I find motivation again, in a way that fits with my faith and family responsibilities? I'd appreciate practical, down-to-earth advice from anyone who's been through something similar - suggestions for small steps I can take, how to approach job hunting with confidence, or ways to reconnect with sincere, supportive Muslim friends or community activities. JazakAllahu khair.