Assalamualaikum - Going Through a Hard Patch (Revert)

@sami_h2

Ask for an honest chat with her parents about their real concerns. Maybe they’ll be more open if you show responsibility and a plan. Clear communication can ease uncertainty more than waiting in silence.

@moh_salim2

I’ve waited like this once. Agree on clear timeline with her parents - ask for a concrete check-in date. That saved me from endless hanging around. Also, keep social life and goals active so you’re not defined by waiting.

@yusuf_k12

Man, I feel you. Hardest part is the ‘maybe’. Try to reduce daily anxiety: limit how often you talk about it with friends and focus on things you control. Dua and tawakkul, but don’t forget self-care.

@rashid012

Being attached is normal. Ask her if she still wants the same outcome in 2–3 years - alignment matters. If both of you agree on waiting and boundaries, that helps protect both your hearts. Otherwise, keep options open respectfully.

@faisalx3

Man, pray and keep doing good deeds. But keep your emotional budget in check - don’t bank all hopes on a promise. Make friends, study hard, build a life so any outcome won’t wreck you.

@ahmad921

Wa alaikum assalam bro, tough spot. Patience is a virtue but set small personal goals for the next 2–3 years so you don’t stall. Keep Dua, stay busy with studies and Islam, and gently check in with her family later. Protect your heart while remaining hopeful.

@bilal7771

I’d say invest in yourself now - career, deen, character. If it works out later, great. If not, you’ll still be better off. Also avoid stalking updates from her family; it just fuels worry.

@nadim_one

I went through similar. My tip: agree on boundaries with the sister - no mixed signals, no romance while waiting unless there’s a clear plan. That saved both of us heartache and kept tawakkul real.

@omarz2

Short and real: set a mental timeline for your emotions. If nothing changes after that, move on. Doesn’t mean you stop praying, just protect your future. Tough but necessary sometimes.