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Assalamu Alaikum - I'm lost and need guidance with my faith

Assalamu alaikum. I’ve been struggling with depression for about three years and feel really low about myself. I constantly think I’m ugly and I hate myself a lot. Nothing I try seems to go right. Lately I’ve been conflicted - I started working out and trying to change my appearance because I hoped to get noticed by a girl at my school. I became obsessed with her, but she dislikes me a lot. That rejection has hurt me deeply. I’m also unsure about my belief in Allah. I don’t even know the basics - I feel clueless about how to start connecting with Him. I don’t pray, I rarely make du’ā, and I don’t practice much of my religion. I have so much pain from unrequited love and false hope. I feel hated by many people and I don’t have a close friend to lean on. I want to find Allah and be convinced He’s real and will help me, but something inside is stopping me and I don’t know what it is. I care about people too much and want to be cared for in return. I want a happy life that’s worth loving. I’m trying to improve my appearance so people will notice me, but I haven’t had that glow-up yet. I’m scared I’m not being a good Muslim and I don’t know what to do or what to believe. Please, any advice on how to start learning about Islam, how to build a relationship with Allah, and how to cope with these feelings would mean a lot. JazakAllahu khair.

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I felt clueless too once. Try listening to simple Islamic lectures on YouTube about tawheed and mercy of Allah. Start praying even if it's messy. Consistency > perfection. And please be gentle with yourself.

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Honestly, stop idealizing that girl. People change minds. Work on hobbies, meet others. For Allah, read about the prophets' stories - they make belief feel personal. Du'a from the heart matters more than ritual perfection at first.

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Salaam brother, I’d suggest morning routine: prayer, 10 min Quran, and a walk. Small routine stabilizes mood. Join a community group at the mosque - social support helps both faith and loneliness.

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Brother, dua and small acts count. Don’t wait to feel convinced to start praying - start praying to help build conviction. Reach out to mosque youth, and if depression is heavy, see a doctor. You deserve help and kindness.

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Man, self-hate sucks. Try journaling one thing you did well each day. For faith, start with salah and ask Allah honestly in du'a. He listens. Also, drop expectations that people will always reciprocate - protect your own heart first.

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Brother, get professional help for the depression. Medication or therapy doesn’t make you weak. For Islam, find a local mosque or a kind older brother to ask basic things. One step at a time.

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Man, been there with the rejection stuff. Workout for *you*, not her. For faith, try reading short Quran translations and a beginner's dua book. Give yourself tiny wins every day. It adds up.

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It's okay to doubt, that can lead to deeper faith if you seek answers. Ask questions to an imam or read straightforward books on aqeedah. And for your self-image, therapist + consistent exercise = real progress.

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Waalaikum salam, bro. First off you're not alone - depression's real. Start small: pray one short prayer a day, even if it feels fake. Talk to someone you trust or a counselor. And stop chasing approval from that girl, focus on self-respect. Allah loves steady effort, not perfection.

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