When My Parents Fear My Faith: A Muslim Teen’s Struggle

Assalamu alaikum, everyone. Last year, I woke up to how far I’d drifted from Allah and made tawbah. Growing up in Canada with parents who call themselves Muslim but don’t pray or teach Islam, I spent my early years in haram. But Allah guided me-I quit major sins and taught myself to pray. When I shared this with my parents, they weren’t happy. My dad said prayer isn’t obligatory and we shouldn’t bother with halal or haram, just live peacefully. My mom feared I’d turn into an extremist. Then I visited family in Algeria and saw the root: almost nobody prays, and sin is common, except my uncle (my mom’s brother). He’s practicing, wears a djellaba, keeps a beard, and gently advises others to avoid haram, but they’d rather follow their desires. They gossip about him, hide things, and avoid him. I realized my mom fears I’ll become like him-so I now hide my efforts to avoid sin. If I mention I stopped music, they tell me not to overthink it. I used to trim my beard to a goatee, but when I let it grow, my mom cried, saying she came to Canada to escape extremists and now they’re in her home. She said my uncle’s beard makes her sick. My dad, who earlier promised help with job connections and driving, now says he won’t support me-if I get in trouble, I’m on my own. I explained the Prophet ﷺ told us to grow beards and Allah commands us to obey parents unless it’s sinful, but then my dad insulted the Prophet ﷺ, spoke about Aisha (may Allah forgive me for even writing this), and called him a nobody. I asked how he could claim Islam yet reject prayer and insult the Prophet, when both are said to take one out of Islam in the Quran, and he insulted me and the Quran. How do I keep going? My parents follow a man-made Islam where if enough people do a haram, it suddenly becomes halal. They pick and choose what’s halal and haram, and when I leave a sin they’re used to, they say everyone does it and call me extreme. I know I’m on the right path, but as a teen, it hurts to have your parents resent you for trying to become a better Muslim. Any advice? Jazakum Allahu khairan.