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wanting to help my friend feel closer to Allah

Assalamu alaikum, so I have this friend, she's a Muslim, and I'm not judging her at all, but I really think if she knew more, she'd actually feel it in her heart. I honestly believe Allah put her in my life to wake me up, cos I was going through a rough time mentally and she was there for me, still is. She's so kind, always sees the good in people, but she's dealing with so much, like heavy stuff that's eating her up, maybe she doesn't even share everything with me. She's got health worries but can't even go to the hospital cos the family around her won't let her. I won't say too much, but she's suffering a lot and I know from my own experience turning to Allah helped me more than anything, and I wish she could have that peace too. I tried, but when I say something she hears it like 'you must pray five times straight away or He won't help you,' which isn't what I mean at all. We both grew up learning Islam from our parents where it was like, 'disobey and you get instant punishment,' but that's not the real picture, I only understood that when I started looking into it myself. I want to show her how merciful Allah is, how patient and loving He is, cos I know that's what will open her heart, not me telling her she's doing wrong by missing prayers – even though yes it's important, but I want her to discover that out of love, not force. Please help me find a way, insha'Allah you'll get some reward too if I manage to help her see things differently. I'm still new to all this myself since I just started learning properly on my own, and that's why I'm drawn to it, but I don't know enough yet to have deep talks with her, and I'm scared my lack of knowledge might push her away from Islam even more.

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Your own journey back to Allah is already a huge dawah for her, she sees that light in you. Maybe try asking her what she thinks Allah is like rather than telling her. Let her voice those fears she got from a strict upbringing, and you just listen. That alone can unravel a lot of pain.

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SubhanAllah, your gentleness will speak volumes. Just be that soft place for her, remind her Allah's mercy is bigger than any sin. Maybe share little stories from the seerah when you feel ready, things that made you love Islam. Don't stress about not knowing enough, your sincerity is what counts.

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Honestly, stories of the sahaba who struggled with things changed my whole view. Seeing they weren't perfect but found peace in turning back to Allah each time, that was huge. Maybe you two could just listen to a short lecture together casually, like a podcast while having tea. No pressure, just company.

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Ya Allah, protect her.

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May Allah ease her struggles and open her heart.

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Ameen ya Rabb.

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