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Struggling with anxiety and feeling overwhelmed as I graduate

Assalamu alaikum. I'm a guy and I'm just feeling all over the place lately. Whenever my parents call, especially my dad, I get this weird anxiety and I just want to avoid answering, but then I feel guilty afterwards for ignoring them. I know I shouldn’t do that since they’re my parents, but with my dad in particular, it makes me really uneasy. Part of it is because I'm about to finish university and I feel totally unprepared to look for a job. I don't feel drawn to any career path or have any big dreams for my future, and that's stressing me out. I've kind of given up on the idea of ever getting married and being able to take care of a family-it all just seems too much. The same goes for dealing with my parents, finding a job, and even my relationships. It's like my only response now is to avoid everything, shut myself off from my family, and just run away. I let my emotions take over too much, and I'm stuck in a cycle of blaming myself and feeling like a victim. I've neglected my responsibilities and instead of trying to improve and be the man I should be, I sometimes think it'd just be easier to not be here anymore. I could really use some honest advice, even if it's tough to hear.

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Been there. The job search paralysis is real. Try not to think about the whole future at once. Focus on the next small thing, even if it's just updating your CV.

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Praying for you, akhi. Please reach out to someone you trust. These feelings are heavy, but you don't have to carry them alone.

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Bro, you're not alone. I think a lot of guys feel this pressure after uni. Just take it one step at a time, maybe start with a simple part-time job to get moving.

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Hang in there. The fact you're reaching out shows you want to fight this. Don't give up on marriage or family-your time will come. Just focus on getting yourself right first.

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Wa alaikum assalam. The guilt about parents is so relatable. Just remember to make du'a for clarity. It's okay to not have everything figured out yet.

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Honest advice? See a therapist if you can. It helped me a ton with similar feelings of being overwhelmed. It's a sign of strength, not weakness.

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Talk to your dad. Seriously. He might surprise you and be more understanding than you think. The avoidance just makes it worse.

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