Struggling to love Allah above my spouse and children

Assalamu alaikum, I've been reflecting on something heavy. The Quran tells us we can't place anyone on the same level as Allah, and that really hit me when I read this ayah from Surah At-Tawbah: 'If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your tribe, the wealth you've gained, the trade you fear losing, and the homes you love are more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger and striving in His cause, then wait until Allah executes His command.' It feels like a serious warning, since it's in the chapter about repentance. So I'm wrestling with how you actually achieve loving Allah more than your own husband or wife and your kids. It's such a natural, deep love for them, you know? How do you reach that level in your heart? Any practical advice would mean the world. Jazakum Allahu khairan.