Our Muslim Sisters Deserve Better

Assalamu alaikum to all reading this, may Allah fill your days with blessings always. Just a heads up before I start-I’m a Muslim guy, and this isn’t about trying to win anyone’s approval. I’m just speaking from the heart because I don’t see this talked about enough, and honestly, the nonsense online is exhausting. So here’s what I need to get off my chest. Some might think the title’s common sense, but sadly, it’s not. In today’s world, especially among Muslims, we often see efforts to suppress our sisters. Why? It makes no sense and has no basis in Islam. Let me be specific-some Muslim men, I’m not tarring everyone with the same brush, act like our sisters are the problem with the Ummah. I once saw a clip where a guy said he wouldn’t want his wife to study or go to university. Others tell women to drop their ambitions and just stay home. That energy is so misdirected. The first university ever was founded by a Muslim woman, Fatima Al-fihriya, in Morocco back in 859. And the Quran’s very first command is ‘Read’ (96:1). Seeking knowledge is a must for every Muslim, male and female alike. Yet some brothers on social media push against this, assuming the worst about sisters in education-thinking they’ll stray. Why jump to that? Why not trust them and cheer them on so they can shine as pious examples? Muslim women are vital; they’re on the frontlines in the struggle against Islamophobia. Media narratives paint us as villains, but it hits our visibly Muslim sisters hardest-hijab, niqab, burqa make them targets. Attacks happen, scarves torn off, daily horrors. They’re the courageous ones, especially in Western lands. Their status in Islam is immense too. The Prophet (PBUH) said, ‘The best among you are those who are best to their wives.’ When a woman becomes a mother, Paradise is at her feet. And think of sisters in warzones-mothers in Gaza, those suffering violence just for being Muslim, girls in Afghanistan barred from schools. Meanwhile, what do we argue about here? May Allah forgive us. I genuinely wish success, health, and joy for my sisters; I make dua for them constantly. Muslim men are meant to be leaders, providers, strong in character and faith-that’s what sisters want, a righteous, responsible husband. No reasonable woman challenges that. Brothers, we need to step up in every way-mind, body, spirit, finances-for our own sake first. If we don’t respect ourselves, why would a wife? And we can’t mess around in our youth then demand a pure, untouched wife. That’s childish and unfair. A free pass for haram while she’s held to a flawless standard? Ridiculous. No wonder some sisters look elsewhere or say Muslim men are awful-not all, but the pattern exists. I’m not attacking men; I am one. This is a wake-up call for those hypocritical ones who need to check themselves. May Allah guide and bless you all. Have a good rest of your day or night.