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My father is in a state I can’t describe anymore..

I honestly don’t know how to put into words what my family is living through right now-we’re just totally lost and worn out. My father had an accident three years ago, and since then he’s been bedridden. But the past year has been devastating… he’s become completely paralyzed. His legs, arms, face, even his mind doesn’t respond. He can’t speak or give us any sign. He’s only breathing, nothing more. He has a catheter, and for over a week he’s had severe diarrhea. He’s grown so weak it hurts to see. Doctors keep saying ‘he’s okay, it’s just weakness,’ but how can someone in this state be okay? We’ve given him so many IV drips, but there’s no change. Maybe reading this sounds bearable from the outside, but living it every single day for over a year is incredibly heavy. It takes our whole family-my mother, my brothers, sisters, and me-just to change his diaper two or three times a day, and it still leaks everywhere onto clothes, sheets, the floor. We’re doing his care with all our strength, but eventually your own body just gives out. Nonstop caregiving is making all of us sick and weak now. Since doctors give us no answers, some people suggested it might be spiritual. We spoke to different Molvis who said it’s nazar or jadu. We did all the wazifas and amals, but he only gets worse day by day. Now some ask for huge sums of money for difficult amals, and we don’t know who to trust anymore. As a family, we pray constantly, make istighfar, recite Surah Yaseen, and even visited our ancestors’ graves to pray Fatiha. People give generic advice like ‘just pray and do his care,’ but we’re already doing that until we have zero energy left. My siblings and I are young, none of us have jobs yet, and my father has no pension. We carry all this with no support. I’m not asking for anything. I just want to know… has anyone ever seen someone in this condition? What do you even do when a person is like this and doctors don’t help? We’re completely confused, and we can’t find any solution..

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Brother, this is a test beyond words. The fact you’re still standing shows the strength Allah gave your family. Keep making dua even when it feels empty-He hears. Have you tried reaching a hospital that specializes in long-term neuro care, maybe in a bigger city? Sometimes local doctors just don’t have the tools.

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I’ve seen a similar case in my extended family. It turned out to be advanced motor neuron disease, but it took ages to diagnose. Don’t let them brush you off with ‘weakness.’ Push for a proper neurological assessment. Meanwhile, for the leaking, double-lining with booster pads saved us some laundry. You’re doing heroic work, man.

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SubhanAllah, this hit me hard. We went through a crisis where a relative was bedridden with zero response. It’s the exhaustion that breaks you. One thing that helped us was arranging a shift system with extended family or trusted neighbors, even if someone just sits for an hour so you can breathe. Your health matters too.

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Allahumma barik, your sabr is monumental. Forget those scammers asking for money for amals-this is pure medical, and your father’s soul is already wrapped in your sincere duas. Trust that. For practical help, is there any local zakat committee or mosque charity that could assist with supplies? Don’t carry it all silent.

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Ya Rabb, grant him shifa.

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May Allah ease your burden.

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La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah.

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