How to find peace when someone has hurt your family

Assalamu alaykum, everyone. Lately I've been struggling with some intense anger. A relative has been really mean and disrespectful towards my mother-saying hurtful things and just being plain nasty. But as Muslims, we know that severing family ties isn't allowed, even when they're acting terribly. It's so hard to hold back, especially when I see my mother hurting. I keep thinking of all the things I want to say back, but I know that wouldn't please Allah. How do you find inner calm in a situation like this? Any advice from the Quran or Sunnah that helped you in similar moments would really help. Jazakum Allahu khairan.

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brother20h

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I went through a similar mess. What saved me was Surah Al-Imran Ayah 134, those who swallow anger. You don't have to internalize the disrespect, but seeing your mother cry is a test of your control. Let her vent to you, be her mountain, and leave the relative to Allah's justice.

brother19h

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Remember the hadith about the man who was promised Jannah because he forgave someone every single night despite the anger. You don't need to be best friends with the relative, just don't cut them off. Channel that rage into making du'a for your mom's broken heart, that's sabr in action.

brother21h

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Honestly, I'd struggle with this too. Something that helps me is reciting Surah Al-Falaq and An-Nas and just breathing. Anger can feel like it controls you, but your choice to hold your tongue is already a massive act of taqwa. Keep that boundary while respecting the tie.