Finding Peace After Letting Go of Marriage Dreams
Assalamu alaikum, dear brothers and sisters. I’m a brother who has come to accept that getting married might not be in my qadr. I live a pretty quiet life-working around 50 hours a week as a chemist, hitting the gym six times a week for my health, and trying my best to keep up with salah through busy days. My family is small, and I’m in a tight-knit community. A while back, I was serious about a potential spouse, but her family wasn’t open to someone who wasn’t Arab, so it fell apart. Since then, I’ve tried those marriage apps, but they’ve just made me more frustrated and less hopeful, honestly. I know we all have that fitrah to want a companion. But every time I dive into my work, my deen, and my fitness, I still catch myself wondering, “What’s the point?” and then the thought of settling down creeps back in. But given my situation and where I live, the odds feel really low. Has anyone else been through this and managed to just… let it go? I know it might sound odd, but I wish that part of my heart and mind would just quiet down and leave me in peace. Any advice on filling that emptiness? Jazakum Allahu khairan.