Feeling too caught up in worldly matters - how can I shift my mindset?
Assalamu alaikum everyone, I’m reaching out for some tips on how to actually become a better Muslim and feel more peace and blessings in my daily life. I’m 26, living in Europe. Alhamdulillah, I’ve finished my Master’s, I’m in a stable job, and I got married a few months back. Me and my wife, we have a happy, comfortable life overall. But honestly, life sometimes feels like I’m on repeat: work five days, relax and do dunya stuff on the weekend, then start all over. I notice myself getting tangled in thoughts about getting a promotion, making more income, going on trips, buying new things, pleasing my boss… you get the idea. I guess the people around me play a part too. The folks I hang out with are mostly friends and colleagues who, naturally, are busy chasing the next job, finding a bigger flat, upgrading the car, getting that promotion, booking the next holiday, catching another show, stuff like that. There’s nothing wrong with any of that by itself, but I see that talks and focus just circle around these topics. Even if someone does care about deeper things, it’s not always said out loud or shown. Slowly, I think I’ve started picking up that mindset without even meaning to. I don’t really want endless more, but I catch myself comparing my life to others and wondering what’s next. Now, none of these worldly things are bad in themselves. But I feel like I’m getting too hooked on the dunya. Deep down, I just want to be more grateful for what Allah has already given me and pay more real attention to my deen. My wife and I try to stick to our salah, fast, stay away from haram, and all that. But we live in a small European town and the local mosque is pretty quiet, so it’s hard to find a supportive Muslim circle. For anyone who’s been through something like this, especially Muslims in the West: what practical stuff - habits, routines, books, lectures, lifestyle shifts - helped you get closer to Allah and less caught up in dunya? I’m not trying to drop my duties or check out from the world. I still want to work, look after my family, travel, enjoy life, and go after my goals. I just want to keep the dunya side simple, be thankful for Allah’s blessings, and give more weight to my deen. JazakAllahu khairan for any suggestions.