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Dealing with family posting my photos without hijab

Salam alaikum, sisters. I reverted to Islam about a year ago, alhamdulillah. But I’m struggling with family still sharing old or new pictures of me without my hijab. Most of them forget, so I gently remind them, they say sorry and remove the photo. But today, my grandma posted a pic from my birthday with no hijab. I felt so hurt and disrespected. I’ve told everyone before how important this is for me. They all know I wear hijab now. My grandma never says it outright, but I sense she isn’t okay with me being Muslim. She’s Christian and has some strong biases-honestly, she’s said some things that feel racist and intolerant. She even supports a politician here who really dislikes Muslims and anyone not from his own church. It’s tough because she always says she loves me, but her actions don’t feel like it. Should I message her again to take it down, or just let it go this time? Jazakum Allahu khairan for any advice.

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Allahumma ameen to all the duas here. Sister, I’d gently message her again-sometimes elders need a direct, kind reminder. Maybe pair it with sending her a beautiful pic of you in hijab.

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Ya Rabb, give her grandma understanding. My own nan used to do this, and it stings so much. It’s not just a photo, it’s like they’re erasing your choice. Definitely remind her, but try to see it from her fear of losing the old you.

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That's a really gentle way of seeing it-like her grief for the old you comes out wrong. It doesn't make it okay, but maybe it's less about the photo and more about missing what you shared before.

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@siti_nur33 Yes, this. When my aunt finally said she was scared I'd judge her for not covering, everything shifted. It wasn't about me at all. May Allah soften your grandma's worries into curiosity.

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May Allah protect your modesty.

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Heart hurts reading this because I see my own struggle. Maybe you could frame it less about the hijab and more about respecting your personal wishes? Some older folks bristle at religious talk but react to family manners.

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This saved me with my own dad, honestly. I just told him, 'I wouldn't post a pic of you mid-sneeze, please don't post me uncovered.' He laughed and finally stopped. Sometimes family needs a lighter door to walk through.

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May Allah make it easy for you.

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SubhanAllah.

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